“Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state, but a process...There is something new to be chronicled every day. Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape. As I’ve already noted, not every bend does. Sometimes the surprise is the opposite one; you are presented with exactly the same sort of country you thought you had left behind miles ago. That is when you wonder whether the valley is a circular trench. But it isn’t. There are partial recurrences, but the sequence does not repeat. Grief is not a trench, and sorrow is not a state. Loss is long, low valley... but there is beauty in it.”